Ezra Titus

1966 – 2009

LETTER TO ANN

3/1/01

Dear Ann,

I left a message on your answering machine today. I’m writing as well because I have something to say that’s very important to me and I want to be sure that you hear it: My Mom told me that you called her today in the hospital. I know your intentions are good. But, I’ve tried to tell you before that your continuing relationship with my Mother makes me uncomfortable as your former patient. My Mom and I have already had a major falling out over this issue and I do not wish that to happen again.

I would appreciate it if you would discontinue this unneccessary dialogue with her. I realize she has pneumonia, but I dont think it’s neccessary that you treat her in any way- Especially because your husband already treats my Mom afong with other doctors, as you are aware.

No matter what I’ve done wrong in my life, and no matter what you think of me, she is my Mother. We haven’t always had a great relationship, but I’m trying to make it better. By continuing to treat her, or even speak to her unneccessarily, you are making that more difficult than it needs to be.

I feel I have a right to say this, and to be heard, given the sanctity of anyone’s relationship with their parents. Also, you promised me Jong ago that exactly what is happening today- would never happen.

I want to leave our six years of therapy, which ended badly, behind. I believe it’s reasonable to want this, since I have not been youLpatient for .over two years now. Please leave my relationship with my Mom alone, by curtailing, to the greatest ‘ possible extent, your interaction with her. I make this request, not in bitterness, but in the hope of keeping my relationship with my Mother stable. Please try to understand. I know you like my Mom, but I love her and I need her more. We’ve been getting along lately and Itton’t want your interaction with her to change that. I would really appreciate it if you could acknowledge your awareness of the feelings expressed here in any way. Thanks,

Ezra Titus